Lines between professional and personal lives are blurrier than ever, partly for practical reasons — even post-recession, most of us are still — and partly for cultural ones.
At thriving creative and tech companies, where employees are given dormlike amenities like yoga classes and cocktail hours, it seems almost silly to draw the line at dating.
Even when we weren’t competing directly for jobs or assignments, having a boyfriend in my field had the curious effect of making me less secure in almost every situation.
If he said something positive about my work, I figured it was just because he was dating me.
(Yeah, I wish this were equally true of young men, too.
It just .) “This generation is totally determined to have kids by the time they’re in their thirties because of fertility issues,” says career coach Penelope Trunk.
(“If even don’t like this idea, it must really be terrible.”) I was constantly contrasting my career progress with that of my partners’, and always feeling like I wasn’t moving fast enough or working hard enough.
Be light in tone but clear about your intentions (not all of them, of course).
Allow them to see that you want to put the relationship on a social footing, thereby also allowing the courtesy of letting them turn you down too. Take no to mean no and never cajole, push or ask for an explanation. Plan a semi-jokey line that will immediately alleviate the atmosphere between the two of you and restore normal working relations.
“My options sometimes feel like it’s either work or Tinder,” one friend recently said to me, only half joking.
She, like a lot of professional women in their twenties, is focused on making serious strides in her career before she has to make tough decisions about marriage and kids.